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An relationship can keep a man in danger or alive.
In Genesis 2:15 - 25, we read about the first couple and relationship and that this is all part of God's plan. It is nothing random.
1. Remember that God is the Initiator of All Relationships
- Honour God by putting Him first in a relationship -> Pray and serve together.
- When you are closer to God, you would be closer to your other half. It is not how much you give to your relationship that makes you closer. When Eve left God, their relationship drifted further. When Adam left God, their relationship soured.
- Aquilla and Priscilla are the perfect couple.
- Therefore, be more spiritual and pursue Him more.
2. Be a Suitable Helper to Your Partner
- Physically: Care and provide for each other, solve problems together, share burdens, look after him / her when sick, and make him / her better and more comfortable.
- Wait for a suitable helper to come to you. Don't rush! Always start out as friends.
- God put Adam and Eve in the garden to let them support each other towards spiritual growth, but they failed God. Instead, they ignored the moral law that God asked them to obey, as well as tore each other apart.
- Question to Ourselves: Am I a helper in a spiritual sense or bringing him / her down?
- When conflicts arise, God is the one who will sustain you two together.
3. Learn to Treasure and Cherish Your Other Half
- He / She is put into your life to give you support, enjoyment and pleasure. There is no perfect other half, because we are not perfect. But we cover each other's perfections. No one will take over his / her position in your life.
- Once in a while, surprise the person. e.g watch horror movies with the person eventhough you don't like to.
- Protect the person you love.
4. Commitment
- Learn to be committed to each other and responsible for the person.
- Learn to give up certain things (make sacrifices) that you enjoy.
- Don't delay marriage - Don't leave the person hanging. Have an idea of marriage and work towards it.
5. Be Open and Truthful to Each Other
- Being open and truthful builds up faith and trust. We need a lot of effort in doing this.
- Lie once and the other person would not believe.
- Don't engage in things that you feel is 见不得光.
- Protect the dignity of that person, don't show even a hint of immorality.
- Keep a clean, pure, holy and respectable relationship.
6. Don't Give a Sign to Make the Person Doubtful of You
- Don't 谈心事with the opposite sex. Learn to protect ourselves. =)
Contributed By: Sihui
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